The Cosmic Fit Club
Ground Rules, Community Values & Agreements
The Cosmic Fit Club is meant to be a safe, supportive, fun and inclusive space.
In order to do our best to ensure that the space holds those values, we have outlined some ground rules & community agreements that must be agreed on in order to join.
When you enter the space, you agree to these community agreements. These agreements ensure that everyone has the right to a space where they feel their contributions have worth, are comfortable to share their needs, assert their boundaries, and develop their agency. This is an evolving practice we use to cultivate equity, community, support and wellness when we convene as a group. It is essential that the entire community works together to uphold these agreements and can step in to support one another when issues arise.
*These agreements are working documents in continuous development, and will be regularly reviewed and up for modification with all community members. Members are accountable to each other and the community at large, and are responsible for direct and open communication, transparency, and how we share and distribute power.
THIS SPACE DOES NOT TOLERATE:
Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, antisemitism, bigotry, assholishness, bullying, and harassment of any kind. (Don’t be a Karen). This space is committed to dismantling racism, sexism, ableism and all forms of oppression in systems of power and our minds and hearts.
By entering this space, you agree to the community guidelines and ground rules.
Confidentiality, Consent, Care, & Curiosity
“I” Statements and active listening.
By being a member of the Cosmic Fit Club, you agree to uphold and model the following:
NO HARASSMENT OF ANY KIND. PERIOD.
No harassment of community members, coaches, facilitators or admins will be tolerated. If harassment is suspected or reported, there will be one warning issued before being asked to leave the community.
RESPECT (AND CONSENT) IS EVERYTHING.
Respect everyone’s time, personal space. Always ask for consent to provide critiques and/or feedback. Ask for consent before reaching out to people on their social platforms. Be conscious of how much space you’re taking up within the spaces we inhabit together. We take up space and in that we create space for others.
Be generous with passing the mic, with listening, in the assumptions you make, what you can give or add to the conversation, and who you can make or hold space for. Share openly but also be conscious of sharing the mic.
SHARE CONTENT WITH CARE (AND, YES, CONSENT AGAIN)
Ask for consent from the group before sharing triggering content and post trigger warnings if you feel called to share anything in the chat that may be sensitive. Use your discretion when posting potentially triggering content and think about who in the group may be affected.
KNOW WHEN TO SPEAK UP OR LISTEN UP
If you’re someone who tends to not speak a lot, please move up into a role of speaking more. If you tend to speak a lot, please move up into a role of active listening more. When speaking in a larger group, we invite you to be “brief and brilliant” to honor everyone’s experience. Consider how identity might contribute to your tendency to take up space or remain quiet and act outside of conditioning or expectations.
IMPACT OVER INTENT
Acknowledge the difference between impact and intent. Do the self-reflection work to recognize that you might intend one thing but your impact is another; be open to feedback. Embrace mistakes. Refrain from demanding perfection of yourself and others. Take care of yourself so you can stay present. Step back when you need to, we're always here :)
MOVE AT THE SPEED OF GRACE
Most people are decently good (especially those who show up in this community) and are making honest mistakes. Believe everyone is coming from a place of love and give each other grace. Lean into the trust that people are coming from a place of good intent.
Stories stay, lessons go. Honor confidentiality. No recording, no screengrabs. Share lessons learned beyond this group, but please do not share the personal stories of others.
Ask for help! If you feel challenged, frustrated by an experience or community member, please speak up, whether it’s via email or asking for mediation from another community member to navigate a conflict. We resolve conflict by rising to the challenge of prioritizing relationships and believing that everyone here is capable of change, if given the opportunity and space to do so.
LEAD WITH CURIOSITY
Avoid assumptions. Come from a place of curiosity! Prioritize questions. Avoid accusations. When in conversations in this space, always ask yourself: What can I learn from this? In this space, we make room to learn about others at a pace that is comfortable for them and respect that. We will not make assumptions about how people identify (race, gender, orientation, background) or about their lived experiences.
EVERY VOICE IS IMPORTANT
Create space, take space, hold space. Regardless of age, background, experience, title, etc. we all have something to contribute! We encourage you to speak from the “I”... speak from your own lived experiences and feelings.
NO ONE KNOWS EVERYTHING; TOGETHER WE KNOW MORE THAN WE THINK
In any conversation, we know that members are coming to the conversation with different levels of lived experience and embodied expertise. We also believe that each member has something to contribute to the conversation. We commit to non-hierarchical communities where there is no individual- including the admins, coaches and moderators- who are “above” or “more important” than anyone. This agreement asks that we all practice being humble, and look for what we have to learn from each person in the room. It asks us to share what we know, as well as our questions, so that others may learn from us.